Bless Them… But Don’t Let Them Walk All Over You: How I Stood for Truth With Grace and Won

I speak and write a lot about loving others, blessing others, forgiving others — and yes, Jesus absolutely calls us to do all of that.

But does blessing others mean tolerating ongoing mistreatment?
Does forgiveness mean accepting lies or injustice?
Does being a Christian with a soft heart mean you become a doormat?

Absolutely not.

The Bible calls us to love and live in truth, to bless and be wise, to forgive and stand for what is right.

Today, I want to share a personal story that brought those principles to life in a powerful way.

When Trying to Be a Blessing Meets Injustice

One morning during rush-hour traffic, I noticed police lights a quarter mile behind me.
I did exactly what you’re supposed to do — worked my way over to the far-right lane as quickly as safely possible.

Another quarter mile down the road, the officer caught up and whipped into the far-right lane, right behind me....right on my bumper. Woah! What??? He's pulling me over? Surprised, I pulled over immediately.

I was respectful the whole time, but the officer said some questionable things and handed me a ticket claiming he had “paced” me at 79 mph on a road with a limit of 65 mph.

Let me be clear:
He did not pace me at 79 mph. In fact, he didn't pace me at any speed.

The "fact" written on the ticket was completely false.

Blessing Others Doesn’t Mean Accepting Being Wronged

Some people think that being a Christian means staying quiet when someone mistreats you.
But Scripture paints a different picture:

• “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.” — Romans 12:18
  Peace is the goal — but “as far as it depends on you” means you don’t allow ongoing wrong to continue.

• “Open your mouth, judge righteously, defend the rights of the poor and needy.” — Proverbs 31:9
  God calls us to stand up for the oppressed — and sometimes the oppressed is YOU.

• “Speak the truth in love.” — Ephesians 4:15
  Love and truth always go together.

Blessing someone does not mean abandoning truth.
Forgiveness does not mean accepting falsehood.
Love does not equal silence in the face of injustice.

“You’ll Lose Without a Lawyer.”

Everyone told me I would lose.
“You’re crazy to fight this.”
“The prosecutor will eat you alive in court."

"No judge will take your side.”
“You can’t win without an attorney.”

But something deep within me said,
No. Stand up. Peacefully, respectfully — but firmly.

I have several family members and dear friends who have had long, successful careers in law enforcement and who I believe have served honorably. Unfortunately, an officer who will lie about me will lie about you. Dishonest officers tarnish the reputation of and trust in noble officers who serve with integrity and are deserving of the highest respect.

So I researched.
I wrote out legal arguments.
I prepared a line of questioning.
I rehearsed every rebuttal I could think of.

This is biblical too:

• “The prudent give thought to their steps.” — Proverbs 14:15
  Preparation is not fear — it’s wisdom.

• “The righteous are bold as a lion.” — Proverbs 28:1
  When you know the truth, you can stand with boldness.

The Courtroom Surprise

After sitting in the crowded courtroom for hours, my name was finally called. I stood up, walked to the front and addressed the judge. The judge seemed immediately surprised by the first sentence I spoke. The prosecutor initially seemed rather brusque. No one had attempted what I was attempting. For hours I had sat in the courtroom. Case-after-case had been called. Everyone who appeared without legal representation or with a public defender gave a plea of either "guilty" or "no contest." "Guilty"... "Guilty"... "No contest"... "Guilty"... "No contest"... Nothing other than that except from those who had a lawyer there to represent them. I was different. I had prepared. I had rehearsed. I came with a strategy... with a game plan. When the officer's body cam footage was reviewed, it proved my assertion that the officer had made a false statement and wrongfully charged me.

Suddenly, the prosecutor's demeanor and tone towards me changed. The prosecutor recommended to the judge that the charge be dismissed.

The judge looked at with a kind look and very politely and respectfully said: "i realize you've spent much of your morning here in court. Congratulations! Well done! Charges are dismissed. Have a very nice day."

Justice.
Truth.
Peace.

All three — together.

Blessing Your Enemies With Strength, Not Weakness

Here’s the important part:

Even after all that,
I still blessed the officer.

Not because he was right.
He wasn’t.
Not because what he did was okay.
It wasn’t.

I blessed him because bitterness poisons the one who holds it.
And because Jesus said:

• “Bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.” — Luke 6:28

But look closely — Jesus never said:
“Let people lie about you.”
“Accept injustice.”
“Stay silent while being mistreated.”

Blessing your enemies is a heart posture, not an order to let people trample your dignity.

Jesus Himself confronted wrongful authority, false accusations, and hypocrisy again and again — and He did it calmly, courageously, and truthfully.

The Balance: Peaceful, Loving, Courageous Strength

This experience taught me something powerful:

It is possible to be a blessing AND stand up for yourself.

You can be kind AND firm.
You can be loving AND courageous.
You can forgive AND still fight for truth.

You can bless someone…
without bowing to injustice.

That’s what real Christlike strength looks like.

Stand Up for Yourself — And for Those Who Can’t

God doesn’t just call us to defend ourselves when wronged.
He calls us to defend others too:

• “Defend the weak and the fatherless; uphold the cause of the poor and oppressed.” — Psalm 82:3

If someone is being mistreated and can’t speak up…
you speak up.
You stand up.
You help lift them.

This is love in action.
This is blessing in action.
This is faith in action.

Final Thought: Be a Blessing, But Never a Doormat

Bless your enemies.
Bless those who mistreat you.
Bless those who misunderstand you.

But don’t ever let blessing become bondage.

God wants you to walk in truth, courage, and peace — all at the same time.

Stand for truth.
Stand for justice.
Stand for yourself.
Stand for others.

And do it all with a heart full of love.

That’s the Blessings Revolution.

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